Married Mom of 1 seeking deep personal friendship, loves long talks and walks on the beach
Update: Crap, don't write posts tired. I want to clarify something. My friend I met at the beach didn't do anything wrong. It was as I said a miscommunication. She had intended to go with her friend to the beach before I ever mentioned I was going to the beach. Making plans via a facebook status update proceding comment line probably wasn't the best idea. Anyway, I just went back and read this post. It comes off as if I blame her but really, miscommunications suck in general and though I was frustrated at the situation not my friend. Whew. Will I ever learn to not blog tired?...... Don't answer that. Its 11:30 at night right now.
Don't forget about the Giveaway in my last post.
Today I am going to see a good friend. I need some times with a good friend right now. Chloe is one of those gals with tons of affirming words coupled with a great listening ear. I try really hard to make sure I am the same. Good friends like that seem harder and harder to come by the older I get.
Honestly. Why is that? I know I'm older, more busy, have lots of things that take priority. Why then must it be so difficult to build intimate lasting friendships? Ok, maybe because I keep moving and leaving them behind. Maybe because we are all busy. Relationships in youth seemed to fall into place. The older we get the more work they are.
I spoke with my mom yesterday about it after a very disappointing trip to the beach. I was bummed after a miscommunication left me waiting an hour for a friend only to find her hanging out down the beach with someone else. That sucked! I hate being the new girl, especially in a place I'm not actually new to. I know I've said that before. Its still true. I asked my mom at what point did she started noticing a scarcity of deep personal friendships. My mom explained that it was rather early for her since we moved so much. Then when she settled, her friends started moving away as soon as they got really close. It was all rather coincidental. Its not like we moved willingly. It was for my dad's job, but it left her closing herself off to avoid the hurt. I so understand that.
I refuse yet to close myself off. I'm a very social, emotional, deep feeling and thinking person. I need deep personal friendships. Hubby even affirmed that yesterday. He gets to go to work and be with people and connect all day in a dynamic work environment. I get Miss Wiggles who is awesome but communication is still at the Mommy, Daddy, Leo, Moo, Meow, Tweet and Nummm level.
I have been trying to get to MOPS for three months now. Every other Thursday, we are to sick to leave the house, the same every other Thursday MOPS is. Then yesterday, we were finally all healthy enough and looking forward to going. MOPS was canceled.
Seriously!?! Dude! I'm thinking there is a message there. I refuse to give up. Friends are important to my overall health. Remember me crying over the What Not to Wear episode with the new mom who once was so well put together? Yeah.
I'm thinking of branching out. If MOPS isn't gonna happen then I need to start looking else where. Hubby mentioned I need to be careful or my desperateness is gonna put people off.
So, I'll let you know what I come up with, but there has got to be other friend needing people in this city.
Just need to mention that I'm impatient and I do have friends, I just need to be patient and wait for them to develop. I just hate waiting.
Don't forget about the Giveaway in my last post.
Today I am going to see a good friend. I need some times with a good friend right now. Chloe is one of those gals with tons of affirming words coupled with a great listening ear. I try really hard to make sure I am the same. Good friends like that seem harder and harder to come by the older I get.
Honestly. Why is that? I know I'm older, more busy, have lots of things that take priority. Why then must it be so difficult to build intimate lasting friendships? Ok, maybe because I keep moving and leaving them behind. Maybe because we are all busy. Relationships in youth seemed to fall into place. The older we get the more work they are.
I spoke with my mom yesterday about it after a very disappointing trip to the beach. I was bummed after a miscommunication left me waiting an hour for a friend only to find her hanging out down the beach with someone else. That sucked! I hate being the new girl, especially in a place I'm not actually new to. I know I've said that before. Its still true. I asked my mom at what point did she started noticing a scarcity of deep personal friendships. My mom explained that it was rather early for her since we moved so much. Then when she settled, her friends started moving away as soon as they got really close. It was all rather coincidental. Its not like we moved willingly. It was for my dad's job, but it left her closing herself off to avoid the hurt. I so understand that.
I refuse yet to close myself off. I'm a very social, emotional, deep feeling and thinking person. I need deep personal friendships. Hubby even affirmed that yesterday. He gets to go to work and be with people and connect all day in a dynamic work environment. I get Miss Wiggles who is awesome but communication is still at the Mommy, Daddy, Leo, Moo, Meow, Tweet and Nummm level.
I have been trying to get to MOPS for three months now. Every other Thursday, we are to sick to leave the house, the same every other Thursday MOPS is. Then yesterday, we were finally all healthy enough and looking forward to going. MOPS was canceled.
Seriously!?! Dude! I'm thinking there is a message there. I refuse to give up. Friends are important to my overall health. Remember me crying over the What Not to Wear episode with the new mom who once was so well put together? Yeah.
I'm thinking of branching out. If MOPS isn't gonna happen then I need to start looking else where. Hubby mentioned I need to be careful or my desperateness is gonna put people off.
So, I'll let you know what I come up with, but there has got to be other friend needing people in this city.
Just need to mention that I'm impatient and I do have friends, I just need to be patient and wait for them to develop. I just hate waiting.
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One of the ladies on the show encouraged women to take things slow and not to expect much in the beginning. We have the tendency to share our whole lives in one sitting, and then expect a best friend the next. Again, I am one of these. What then happens is we are left feeling let down when the feeling is not mutual with the other person (and they may not even be aware of how you feel.)
The same lady giving this encouragement gave her own personal example. She said she was taking a class and met the lady sitting next to her. While they hit it off, it was a few months of seeing one another in class, before they had a coffee date. Slowly, but surely, that friendship grew.
It did me so much good to hear that broadcast. I will try to find it. If I can find it, I will share it with you. It gave me great insight.
http://asxarchive.moodyradio.org/MiddayConnection/2010-03-25_Midday_Connection.asx
I'm sorry for your wait. I know God is going to bless your desire. After all, relationships are at the center of His heart.
Hugs from Colorado to you today.