Working on getting the love back...or actions showing love anyway

To Love Your Husband Tuesday

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What a week! Well, Hubby and I had a great talk about where things are in our marriage right now. My cold turned bronchitis that was followed up by a flare up of intensely terrible hormones driven insanity in me then with Miss Wiggles getting a bad fever and teething two molars and a front tooth meant the last few weeks have been a four wheel drive in our marriage we were ready to be done with.

We had stopped focusing on each other and meeting each other's needs. It is our big commitment in our marriage to look out for each other. It works out better than always looking our for ourselves. So we sat and had a talk about what are some things we would like the other to do. Hubby wants to see that I worked at eliminating some of the chaos of the day before he gets home like no breakfast dishes still on the dinner table or the trash over flowing, the bed made, stuff like that. I agreed since it is important at this point as well for Sarah to see me cleaning up after us. What I want from Hubby is for Him to come home and ask what he can do to help me out.

Well, yesterday though it felt like I was trying to do clean up during the tornado, i.e. I put something away and my toddler plus the one I look after on Mondays came after me and undid it I was hugely rewarded for my efforts. Hubby came home praised me up one side and down the other then took Miss Wiggles and suggested I go take a shower while he get Miss Wiggles ready for bed. When I go out, he gave me a back rub and then prepared dinner for us. We cleaned the kitchen and had a good long talk. I certainly don't expect that every night, but it sure did go a long long way in helping both of us get back to sanity. I am going to make a concerted effort to make sure all dishes make it to the sink and the bed is made. I'm starting with those two things. Oh, forgot to mention I vacuumed in the morning before I gave the kiddos gold fish in their little snack containers. Next time I will vacuum after they are done with the gold fish. Kind of messy.

So, I am working on loving my husband through service which as I told him when we take care of each other we free each other's time up to take care of each other. Its a good kind of cyclical. :)